Tag: communication
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I’m getting bitter, I suppose
This is, I think, how my mum’s death affects me (and I’m sorry, I don’t like ‘passed away’ expression, it doesn’t sound definite enough for me, like if the person may still come back). I don’t miss her. I guess I got used to the fact that I’d never speak to her again, we’d never…
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Should women ‘respect themselves’?
I was wondering whether to put this on my blog or not. It’s not a positive experience, but then, my story wouldn’t be complete if I would be constantly saying that men always treated me well. I was on a dating website for a couple of years before I met John and I spoke with…
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I feel incredibly sad (also, how to have casual sex if you’re autistic)
I have a feeling that I already made a post with this title but then I can’t come up with anything else – I do feel incredibly sad. The last couple of days I was so focused that it was almost like being in a trance – I didn’t do anything except of thinking what…
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Should we have sex on a third date? (How to use social rules to test people)
Having sex on a third date is considered normal. Of course some people have it earlier that that, even before actually going on a date at all. Going for the third date rule may work for neurotypical women because they have the ability to communicate their intentions in nonverbal way. However, we, autistics, don’t do…
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‘Where is this relationship going?’ – never ask man that question
So let’s imagine now that you are dating a guy for a little bit, those are proper dates, things seem to go well but you never talked about commitment. ‘Where is this relationship going?’ is the dumbest question that you can ask and it will only make him resent you. Even if he likes you…
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How to test a guy who asked you out for dinner to a posh restaurant
Ok, so I came up with this scenario, a very easy one. You can use it on a guy who invited you for dinner to an expensive restaurant at the very early stages in your dating process and he wants to pay. Remember, guys sometimes ask you out to an expensive place to deceive you…
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The Boyfriend
Ok, so I didn’t comment on that properly yet. Yesterday The Boyfriend said he didn’t want to be in a friends with benefits situation with me, he wanted a proper relationship. But earlier on I told him that something that he has done earlier really upset me and I’m worried it may happen again. What…
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Avoid casual sex
Ok, this is another thing that society understands in a completely different way than me. And it’s not about having double standards, that sex when you feel attraction is ok and one when you are just horny and want to get laid is not. Any sex is ok as long as it’s not rape. But…
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You have to learn how to be mean to men
Ok, I learned that at the university, where I was the only female student, and there were like 20 guys in the group. I had to be mean, I wouldn’t survive otherwise, they’d eat me alive! I understand however that most autistic women won’t have that experience. I hear so many times a woman talking…
Autistic and me 