Tag: communication
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Should we have sex on a third date? (How to use social rules to test people)
Having sex on a third date is considered normal. Of course some people have it earlier that that, even before actually going on a date at all. Going for the third date rule may work for neurotypical women because they have the ability to communicate their intentions in nonverbal way. However, we, autistics, don’t do […]
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‘Where is this relationship going?’ – never ask man that question
So let’s imagine now that you are dating a guy for a little bit, those are proper dates, things seem to go well but you never talked about commitment. ‘Where is this relationship going?’ is the dumbest question that you can ask and it will only make him resent you. Even if he likes you […]
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We’re act on our instinct when we’re in danger (Notifications again)
Ok, so that is pretty horrible: I was thinking what to do about The Boyfriend and the fact that I still want to be with him, but I’m not sure how the things will work out if he doesn’t fully support my blog. I really believe that I have something important to say: guys always […]
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How to test a guy who asked you out for dinner to a posh restaurant
Ok, so I came up with this scenario, a very easy one. You can use it on a guy who invited you for dinner to an expensive restaurant at the very early stages in your dating process and he wants to pay. Remember, guys sometimes ask you out to an expensive place to deceive you […]
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The Boyfriend
Ok, so I didn’t comment on that properly yet. Yesterday The Boyfriend said he didn’t want to be in a friend with benefits situation with me, he wanted a proper relationship. But earlier on I told him that something that he has done earlier really upset me and I’m worried it may happen again. What […]
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Avoid casual sex
Ok, this is another thing that society understands in a completely different way than me. And it’s not about having double standards, that sex when you feel attraction is ok and one when you are just horny and want to get laid is not. Any sex is ok as long as it’s not rape. But […]
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You have to learn how to be mean to men
Ok, I learned that at the university, where I was the only female student, and there were like 20 guys in the group. I had to be mean, I wouldn’t survive otherwise, they’d eat me live! I understand however that most autistic women won’t have that experience. I hear so many times a woman talking […]
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How to ‘spot a genuine man’?
That is another thing about language that I have problem with: the above question, without the quotation marks, is often being used in dating advice articles. And what does ‘genuine’ mean? Authentic, real, sincere. But the question is used to mean something different: how to find a man who will commit to you. This way, […]
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Sexual abuse and communication (what my mum used to say)
Ok, I felt a bit uncomfortable while deciding if I should blog about it or not, but then I blog about life as an autistic female and sexuality is part of life, isn’t it? So it shouldn’t be omitted. There is some talk about sexuality and autistic females online already and I find it all […]
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Something silly (notifications again)
I need to admit to something really silly here, I broke up with The Boyfriend because of notifications. I got myself into similar situation before, when I made decisions based on what appeared on my mobile phone screen. It was silly and rushed but I didn’t actually regret it later as at least it helped […]
Autistic and me 