Tag: communication
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I’m sticking to my values (I could still afford funeral plan)
Yesterday I had a phone call from a company that offers funeral plans. I don’t have one and normally I’d refuse to speak with them but after my mum died I think I become more aware of my own mortality so I thought I’d talk to them. It turned out the lowest monthly payment was…
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I just realised something (the importance of indirect communication)
When I realised I’m autistic and that there are levels of communication that I don’t get, I started paying more attention to what is being said in non direct way. For that I didn’t need anyone to prompt me (I described here a while ago how my diagnostician prompted me to see other people perspectives).…
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I’m allocating myself a reward
I’m on my way from the local radio station, and I must say the chat with the manager went really well. I will write more about it later, possibly even tomorrow, after I put things into perspective, but for now I wanted to say that I had a feeling like I want to allocate myself…
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I got lucky twice!
It’s only been a few months ago since I realised that how I understand the concept of luck is probably quite different from other people: for me it’s not about the impact the event has, but about how unlikely it is. So if it’s something small, but very unlikely, and it’s positive, I consider myself…
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I feel numbed
I had my visit to the dentist and I was numbed, so I feel numbed. It’s a very smart sentence, isn’t it? I think I should feel lucky as the infection cleared off in both of teeth that I was worried about. I didn’t know that is possible, I thought one day I’ll just wake…
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How much clarification is too much?
That’s the problem with communication – you can never be sure what the other person means. And I must say I certainly get less confident about it since I realised I’m autistic, even though I can’t really remember many situations when I misunderstood people but still, it feels to me now that conversation with somebody…
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‘Just say something!’
I was just asked if I want to be a guest on a podcast and I had to refuse. It was not an easy decision, if I have to be honest, as I’d love to share my truth as widely as possible, but I’m worried it may all backfire. I took a part in a…
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‘That’s how I was brought up’
I came up with this type of response if someone at work will be asking me about stuff that I don’t want to discuss. ‘I don’t discuss my relationship status/financial situation/food choices with people that I don’t know well. That’s how I was brought up.’ That should hopefully give people a hint that 1. They…
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Should I stop trying to be nice?
That’s what I’ve been thinking: a lot of my problems with people is caused by me trying to be ‘nice’ and comply with social rules that they choose for the conversation. For example I answer questions that I don’t want to answer only because they asked. And it doesn’t bring me anywhere, I didn’t make…
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Was I ever tactless?
I keep asking myself this question since yesterday evening and my answer is: being autistic I most likely was, but I don’t remember. Not even that I don’t want to remember, I really don’t. I believe I’m not like that at all since I realised I’m autistic, as I try to make an effort to…
Autistic and me 