Tag: The Boyfriend
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Why autistic men are so stubborn sometimes?
Mind you, this is just a theory. It’s about my fiancé, John. I broke up with him in winter and since we decided to try again I can see he really improved his communication skills. He speaks to me in a gentle voice now and he stopped hitting his thigh with the edge of his…
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I want unlimited choices
It is said that autistic people get overwhelmed with too many choices and quite frankly, this is not my experience at all. Does it mean my autism is ‘mild’? Well, not necessarily – it can mean that either I don’t share this particular trait or possibly even that autism research are flawed. Recently me and…
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Two autistic people talking
Ok, so another myth in autistic community is that two autistic people will not have any communication problems, and I really don’t know where that came from. I guess two autistic people may find it easier to form an initial connection but that doesn’t mean there will be no misunderstandings between them. Just yesterday I…
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Should we be allowed to just be ourselves
I didn’t post yesterday, but this was only because I was giving my website a bit of a break from me, after those emotional 3 days. It’s Sunday today, almost 1pm (when I was writing the first draft of this post). John visited me but he’s already gone! I did notice that he talks differently…
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Easter is coming and I have no family
Yes, I still have my brother, but as you may remember, his alcoholism is very advanced. I mean, I have John, and our communication seems to really improved lately. Although he still doesn’t want me to reveal details about him on my blog (and I’m ok with that) he seems very supportive in general and…
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Attachment styles and autism – part two
I posted my question about attachment styles and autism to my females with autism Facebook group and a lady who’s also working on hers asked me a very good question: why I want to change my attachment style. And that made everything clear to me: I want to change my attachment style because I was…
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Attachment styles and autism
I am sure most of you heard about attachment styles in relationship. There are main four: secure, avoidant, anxious and disorganised. I am confused about what are autistic behaviours and what are attachment styles. I am well aware I wouldn’t call my attachment style a secure one, but then, a few years ago I was…
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I’m in love
I don’t quite know how that happened. Just a few weeks ago me and John agreed to go back to dating on a ‘we will see how it goes’ basis and today I feel I’m in love with him again. We spent such a lovely time together, doing absolutely nothing, all the heavy energy between…
Autistic and me 