Tag: neurotypicals
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There will be no future
That’s how I feel right now – again. It’s 4.40am and it’s Monday. I only just woke up, after having a strange, disturbing dream: I visited my family home and, as I was walking through it, I felt that depressing energy that was trying to suck me in. It was like two black holes, one…
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Should I stop trying to be nice?
That’s what I’ve been thinking: a lot of my problems with people is caused by me trying to be ‘nice’ and comply with social rules that they choose for the conversation. For example I answer questions that I don’t want to answer only because they asked. And it doesn’t bring me anywhere, I didn’t make…
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How to know whether someone is lying?
I think it was just yesterday when I post about the interview with Malcolm Gladwell, the author of ‘Talking to strangers’, where he said that people are not very good at assessing when somebody is lying. I was a bit surprised with that, as I thought this only applies to autistics and now it looks…
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How to talk to chatty people? (Not that I know)
I had a chat over email today with dr Kate Cooper, autism researcher from University of Bath. The chat was about how to communicate with talkative people at work. As I probably mentioned, in my line of work chatting is very common. Sometimes people get so absorbed in it that they look like they’re ignoring…
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Malcolm Gladwell ‘Talking to strangers’ at Oprah’s
https://fb.watch/be5nVA5dLc/ This is a very interesting video: Oprah interviews Malcolm Gladwell, the author of ‘Talking to strangers’. The interview doesn’t mention autism but Malcolm states that quite a few people don’t express their emotions with their face expressions. Although, I presume, most of them don’t laugh when they are shocked or depressed, like I do…
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My emotional instability
A lot of people seem to think that autistics are robotic and have no emotions. I think this belief is really damaging to us and I am not totally sure what causes it? I guess, perhaps the fact that we don’t communicate our emotions? Still, you would think that before making such an assumption one…
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Is telling the truth the solution?
I was wondering recently whether speaking the truth will be solution for our communication difficulties. It was meant to relieve us from the troubles of constant masking and repeating things we heard other people say. Also, I was hoping it will make people respect us and hopefully will prevent them from expecting us to chat…
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Are emotions taboo?
That’s how I feel frequently. That, possibly, talking about emotions means we’re not coping. While saying ‘when my mum died I was off sick for two months’ is absolutely ok, describing the emotions that led us to go off sick is not. Feeling desperate is probably the most taboo of all the emotions out there.…
Autistic and me 