Autistic and me

communication, employment, neurotypicals

Manifesting?

I spent significant part of the afternoon reading or listening to podcasts about, well… manifesting. I’m not sure how well known that term is, but if you ever heard about The Secret, you will know what I mean. Initially I just wanted some positive thinking exercises to improve my ability to understand that yes, the […]

Magda Z.

autism characteristics, being social, coping, Entertainment, intuition, neurotypicals

Malcolm Gladwell ‘Talking to strangers’ at Oprah’s

https://fb.watch/be5nVA5dLc/ This is a very interesting video: Oprah interviews Malcolm Gladwell, the author of ‘Talking to strangers’. The interview doesn’t mention autism but Malcolm states that quite a few people don’t express their emotions with their face expressions. Although, I presume, most of them don’t laugh when they are shocked or depressed, like I do […]

Magda Z.

communication, neurotypicals, sexuality

The ‘Liking Gap’? What’s that?

https://www.vice.com/en/article/4avx73/the-liking-gap-is-why-you-always-wonder-if-people-secretly-hate-you I just found out about this phenomenon called the liking gap. From the article I take that relates to neurotypicals. So apparently it is when someone meets a new person and then assumes that that person didn’t like them, while they in fact did. It’s really confusing to read it, because I was under […]

Magda Z.

autism characteristics, being social, infodumping, neurotypicals

My emotional instability

A lot of people seem to think that autistics are robotic and have no emotions. I think this belief is really damaging to us and I am not totally sure what causes it? I guess, perhaps the fact that we don’t communicate our emotions? Still, you would think that before making such an assumption one […]

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autism characteristics, brother, emotions, mum, neurotypicals

‘Are you trying to imply that I’m lazy?’

https://www.npr.org/2020/06/08/872371063/microaggressions-are-a-big-deal-how-to-talk-them-out-and-when-to-walk-away I came accross the term microagression today and I understood that when I ask someone at work for clarification on how to do a task and they get funny with me, only because I was direct, that is microagression. I was aware of that term before but somehow didn’t see it applies to my […]

Magda Z.

neurotypicals

Will the depression go away by itself?

When I received the phone call about my mum, I was just in the middle of writing a post about sexuality. I left it then but I finished a day or two later. Four days later I went on a trip to Oxford. I thought I was coping. I was surprised by that but I […]

Magda Z.

emotions, neurotypicals

Five stages of grief

I started reading about grief online in hope to make everything seem more real. I obviously was aware of the five stages of grief concept, and it looks like I’m on depression at the moment. I don’t think I experienced much of a bargaining though, it really feels to me like I did what I […]

Magda Z.

dad, mum, neurotypicals

Is telling the truth the solution?

A few days ago I posted about the idea I had, where I thought speaking the truth will be solution for our communication difficulties. It was meant to relieve us from the troubles of constant masking and repeating things we heard other people say. Also, I was hoping it will make people respect us and […]

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communication, neurotypicals

Are emotions taboo?

That’s how I feel frequently. That, possibly, talking about emotions means we’re not coping. While saying ‘when my mum died I was off sick for two months’ is absolutely ok, describing the emotions that led us to go off sick is not. Feeling desperate is probably the most taboo of all the emotions out there. […]

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