Tag: dating
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‘Take care’ – patterns in communication
A few days ago I posted a link about Bristol City Light Festival on my Facebook page. It’s happening in March and I was hoping that possibly me and John will be in a position where we could go there together (John lives in Bristol) and spend some nice time there, both during the festival…
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Oxytocin theory
Some dating coaches advise not to have sex before you really get to know someone. That advice marginalises women sex drive (we have it, don’t we?) and anyway, when you really fancy somebody it’s very difficult to put this aside and focus on ‘getting to know them’ instead. They often mention the oxytocin theory and…
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I can’t do this any more
It’s close to midnight when I write this post and I feel quite uneasy. I was thinking earlier on to suggest to John that possibly I could come over to his place and we could talk but when I was at work today I suddenly got the idea that’s not the right thing to do.…
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Accidental proposal (Marni Batista)
Today I thought John is trying to propose to me, but instead he reminded me we’re not in a relationship. Oh well… so I told him not to argue, for the same reason. Not that we argued when we were in a relationship. The rule of thum is, however, if a guy doesn’t consider you…
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Can relationship be a separate entity?
I spent part of my Sunday on listening to podcasts about relationships. I especially remember the interview with dr Guy Winch, a relationship psychologist who talked about concept of seeing a relationship as a separate entity. It’s not the first time I came accross that concept and I must say I don’t understand it at…
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It’s complicated
That is my current relationship status on Facebook. I’m not quite sure why I chose it because, when I first broke up with John, I told him it’s definitely over. Our relationship seemed to be devoid of passion lately and I can’t blame it on anyone, not even myself. I guess this is what happens…
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My challenging communication style and relationships
It took me ages to understand how my challenging communication style affects relationships. It’s not a positive impact, that’s for sure, but I feel like this communication style is who I am. I can’t change it only because I know that a relationship may fail. It is my understanding that if something doesn’t work properly…
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Why I don’t admire John Gray (Men are from Venice or whatever)
I bet you know who I mean. This guy, who I believe has PhD in human psychology (can one have PhD in animal psychology actually?), who wrote a couple of books about men being from Mars and women being from Venus. In general the conxept is great and he has some insights, I can’t deny…
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I feel incredibly sad (also, how to have casual sex if you’re autistic)
I have a feeling that I already made a post with this title but then I can’t come up with anything else – I do feel incredibly sad. The last couple of days I was so focused that it was almost like being in a trance – I didn’t do anything except of thinking what…
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Should we have sex on a third date? (How to use social rules to test people)
Having sex on a third date is considered normal. Of course some people have it earlier that that, even before actually going on a date at all. Going for the third date rule may work for neurotypical women because they have the ability to communicate their intentions in nonverbal way. However, we, autistics, don’t do…
Autistic and me 