Tag: dating
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‘Where is this relationship going?’ – never ask man that question
So let’s imagine now that you are dating a guy for a little bit, those are proper dates, things seem to go well but you never talked about commitment. ‘Where is this relationship going?’ is the dumbest question that you can ask and it will only make him resent you. Even if he likes you…
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How to test a guy who asked you out for dinner to a posh restaurant
Ok, so I came up with this scenario, a very easy one. You can use it on a guy who invited you for dinner to an expensive restaurant at the very early stages in your dating process and he wants to pay. Remember, guys sometimes ask you out to an expensive place to deceive you…
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Omg, what have I done?
Ok, so I was going to blog about sexuality for a little bit now, but it was difficult to make this shift. I don’t know what people will think about me now, but then, if I see an article about sex, do I think anything bad about the person who wrote it? No, I don’t.…
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Avoid casual sex
Ok, this is another thing that society understands in a completely different way than me. And it’s not about having double standards, that sex when you feel attraction is ok and one when you are just horny and want to get laid is not. Any sex is ok as long as it’s not rape. But…
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Have sex with a man that you fancy (even if he doesn’t want a relationship)
This is another thing that is very important: the society is constanty telling women that if they have sex, they will fall in love. Or at least good sex. This is not my experience at all. Love is complex emotion that takes time to develop and having sex is not sufficient for this to happen.…
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You have to learn how to be mean to men
Ok, I learned that at the university, where I was the only female student, and there were like 20 guys in the group. I had to be mean, I wouldn’t survive otherwise, they’d eat me alive! I understand however that most autistic women won’t have that experience. I hear so many times a woman talking…
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How to ‘spot a genuine man’?
That is another thing about language that I have problem with: the above question, without the quotation marks, is often being used in dating advice articles. And what does ‘genuine’ mean? Authentic, real, sincere. But the question is used to mean something different: how to find a man who will commit to you. This way,…
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What men really think when they pretend they want a relationship while in fact they just want to get laid
Ok, so this may be another interesting thing people don’t realise. I used to study at men dominated university and sometimes heard their conversation about sex. They didn’t talk too directly about it around me but it was still possibe to work out their opinions. So basically, if a man pursues you for sex only…
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Something silly (notifications again)
I need to admit to something really silly here, I broke up with The Boyfriend because of notifications. I was thinking about our relationship and was dissatisfied and then read online about a woman who ended a relationship because it didn’t bring her fulfilment any more and I somehow decided I need to do the…
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Love is not sufficient
One thing that I didn’t mention yet is, that I didn’t want to be with The Boyfriend because of my blog. I like blogging more and more, it gave me new lease of life. But I realised that The Boyfriend, although supportive of the idea in general, wouldn’t be interested in revealing his identity if…
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