Tag: dating
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Attachment styles and autism – part two
I posted my question about attachment styles and autism to my females with autism Facebook group and a lady who’s also working on hers asked me a very good question: why I want to change my attachment style. And that made everything clear to me: I want to change my attachment style because numerous articles…
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Attachment styles and autism
I am sure most of you heard about attachment styles in relationship. There are main four: secure, avoidant, anxious and disorganised. I am confused about what are autistic behaviours and what are attachment styles. I am well aware I wouldn’t call my attachment style a secure one, but then, a few years ago I was…
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Oxytocin theory
A little while ago I made a few posts about sexuality. This is not something that I want to repeat on a regular basis – my aim is to deal with the myth that autistic women don’t like sex. I did it to help autistic sisters to deal better with dating, as with all the…
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Communicating ‘Asperger Style’ by dr Kathy Marshack (and why we are sometimes mean to people)
I watched this video today and found it quite refreshing but also, a big surprise. I was aware of dr Marshack and her attempts to support neurotypical people who are in relationship with autistics. As much as I believe neurotypicals may in fact require support with that, I found dr Marshack really negative at the…
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‘Take care’ – patterns in communication
A few days ago I posted a link about Bristol City Light Festival on my Facebook page. It’s happening in March and I was hoping that possibly me and John will be in a position where we could go there together (John lives in Bristol) and spend some nice time there, both during the festival…
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Is it ok to talk about expectations when we’re in a relationship?
I just realised one thing: the fact that I didn’t want to talk to John about what I would like to be different between us was because deep in my heart I believe that those things shouldn’t be discussed when we are already in an established relationship. I imagine relationship as a contract that one…
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I feel better, finally
After sleeping almost 9h previous night, I had 10h of sleep last night. This is such a massive improvement – being able to sleep excesively when I’m going through stressful time is so much better than sleeping for 1 or 2h a night and developing psychosis as a result. Therefore I’d really recommend everyone Sleep…
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Dating advice – Jonathon Aslay
I really recommend the above video for you to watch, even if I don’t agree with everything that is being said there. I really like what Jonathon says about how we, women, are responsible for emotional connection in the relationship. I noticed other dating coaches don’t get that part right and are telling us, women,…
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I can’t do this any more
It’s close to midnight when I write this post and I feel quite uneasy. I was thinking earlier on to suggest to John that possibly I could come over to his place and we could talk but when I was at work today I suddenly got the idea that’s not the right thing to do.…
Autistic and me 