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I’m in Poland
I’m in my home country Poland, in beautiful village Smardzewice, where I was brought up. I have some serious issues to sort out, including fraud that my mum was a victim. It’s not fun, my brother has his own issues (with alcohol and serious self neglect) and my mum is in a care home as…
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I’m on Redecor
A few weeks ago I sent my story to Redecor and they asked if I wanted to be on the game. I thought, exciting, and was really curious how they will manage to shorten the story into the game brief, but they did. Well done guys, and thank you for that beautiful bedroom, I especially…
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How to stop moaning when you talk to NTs
You know that feeling when you want to have a moan, but just a little one, like 3 minutes only, and then you want to move on? It’s not so easy when you talk to NTs. You need to know a special code. I discovered it in my early 30s by a total accident. It…
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The choice
One of the communication techniques I managed to work out by observing my diagnostician, is asking questions in form of, what I call, ‘statement with a void’. This one is very good for helping us make a choice. Let’s say you want to find out how the autistic person in your life would like to…
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I hope that helps
It has been brought to my attention that what I’m doing here – I mean, providing phrases neurotypical people use, is not going to be effective. Well, obviously, we can’t just learn all of them by heart (although I don’t really have that many for now, do I?) but I’m sure it’s better to do…
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I’m sure you’re going to handle everything beautifully
Imagine a situation when you have to leave work early and the only person staying in is much less experienced than you. What are you going to say? ‘I’m sure you’re going to handle everything beautifully’ is an example of a supportive and encouraging statement. If you’re both females, that is! Do not attempt to…
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Think about what you really want to do
When I first wanted to discuss starting this blog with my boyfriend, also autistic, he said: ‘Think about what you really want to do’ and it sounded really supportive, in a logical way, which is exactly what I appreciate him for. But then, after like two hours of exchanging ideas he said the same thing…
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That’s not good enough!
Another of my favourite sayings, that I picked up just a few weeks ago. You can use it to create powerful sarcastic message. Imaging that you tell your manager that sometimes, when it’s not busy, your colleagues start friendly banter and you don’t feel included. The response you’re getting is: why don’t you go to…
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Everyone has a number those days (I hope)
I emailed a certain service yesterday to make a certain appointment. The man I exchanged emails with asked: Do you have a number that I could call you on? I wasn’t sure what he meant. Everyone has a number those days, I hope, so that seemed like an unusual choice of words. Did he need…
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Consistency is better than intensity
I stole the above quote from a lifestyle blog. I will not be sharing a link as the post contains statements that, if taken directly, can cause an autistic person to misjudge a situation they are in. But I thought, maybe the above could be something to aim for? We need to think long term…
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