Tag: coping
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Knitted socks
I often wonder, how come someone who has no relationship, almost no friends and can’t keep a job, can be such a skillful manipulator like my brother. I feel bad now about everything that I have. I feel like I should think and worry about him, about the fact that he has no food and…
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Social explorer
It is said that a lot of autistic females camouflage and mask. That means, pretty much, we pretend to be normal, even though it takes a lot of effort. But my dad was exactly like that. He used to make jokes (and not very good ones) while with people but sadly he didn’t have any…
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How to deal with yourself
People, both autistics and neurotypicals, are asking sometimes how to manage autism. And my response is: you don’t. Autism is who you are, you can’t change that. You can only manage the traits. How? By recognising patterns, creating procedures for desired behaviour and thinking about long term consequences of your actions – although this can…
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Life in a department store
When I was in my 20s, so didn’t even suspect I may be autistic, I read a couple of books by dr Wayne Dyer, an American self help author. In one of them he described a woman who used to correct clothes on shelves and hangers as she was shopping for outfits. Dr Dyer said…
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Everyone is a bit autistic
This is a post from Rachel, published on my autistic female group recently. It’s excellent: funny and to the point so I published it here after getting her permission. ‘A few days ago someone said to me “everyone has autistic traits” which really annoyed me. But I now actually agree that probably everyone has at…
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Do we need the diagnosis?
I asked that question on my female autism group and almost all responses said we do. Why? For adjustments, protection from discrimination and for self awareness and acceptance. NHS waiting times are too long and some of us, expecially females, are being refused diagnosis due to what GP or even the diagnostic team sees as…
Autistic and me 