Tag: communication
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How to know whether someone is lying?
I think it was just yesterday when I post about the interview with Malcolm Gladwell, the author of ‘Talking to strangers’, where he said that people are not very good at assessing when somebody is lying. I was a bit surprised with that, as I thought this only applies to autistics and now it looks…
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How to talk to chatty people? (Not that I know)
I had a chat over email today with dr Kate Cooper, autism researcher from University of Bath. The chat was about how to communicate with talkative people at work. As I probably mentioned, in my line of work chatting is very common. Sometimes people get so absorbed in it that they look like they’re ignoring…
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Malcolm Gladwell ‘Talking to strangers’ at Oprah’s
https://fb.watch/be5nVA5dLc/ This is a very interesting video: Oprah interviews Malcolm Gladwell, the author of ‘Talking to strangers’. The interview doesn’t mention autism but Malcolm states that quite a few people don’t express their emotions with their face expressions. Although, I presume, most of them don’t laugh when they are shocked or depressed, like I do…
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‘You’re not that bad’
I remember, that was quite a few years ago, when I was under stress and tried to talk to someone and that’s what I’ve heard: You’re not that bad. So I asked ‘How do you know?’ ‘I can see that’ that person answered. I don’t remember the situation but I know that happened in the…
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Is telling the truth the solution?
I was wondering recently whether speaking the truth will be solution for our communication difficulties. It was meant to relieve us from the troubles of constant masking and repeating things we heard other people say. Also, I was hoping it will make people respect us and hopefully will prevent them from expecting us to chat…
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How does ‘on the edge’ feel?
I mentioned a few days ago that, even if I’m aware of my feelings, I can’t usually name them (although I have no problem with sadness). I also mentioned that I don’t understand how my ability to name feelings would help. My understanding is that, as long as I know how the feeling feels like,…
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I’ve been chucked out of a conversation (and I’m having a meltdown)
Ok, so I’m back home now, at 22.20, after a short shift in a supported living place. Suppoted living is where a person with disabilities lives in their own place instead of the care home and they have staff coming in. I was there with another lady, very lively and chatty, and I actually liked…
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The Economist’s writing course (interpretation of an idiom)
There’s this ad that keeps popping up in my Facebook feeds, a writing course by The Economist. I kept ignoring it so far but today I thought, as I’m now in employment I could see what it is about and maybe it will be interesting? I’m not sure the content would apply to the kind…
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Communicating ‘Asperger Style’ by dr Kathy Marshack (and why we are sometimes mean to people)
I watched this video today and found it quite refreshing but also, a big surprise. I was aware of dr Marshack and her attempts to support neurotypical people who are in relationship with autistics. As much as I believe neurotypicals may in fact require support with that, I found dr Marshack really negative at the…
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‘Take care’ – patterns in communication
A few days ago I posted a link about Bristol City Light Festival on my Facebook page. It’s happening in March and I was hoping that possibly me and John will be in a position where we could go there together (John lives in Bristol) and spend some nice time there, both during the festival…
Autistic and me 