Category: communication
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Is it ok to be eccentric? (Plus some digression about communication)
I’m wondering, if I allowed myself to be eccentric, would I be accepted by other people who also work in care? That’s what I started wondering about after my training yesterday. There were only 3 of us and the trainer. The trainer was very energetic and passionate about what she was doing but also rather…
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Twisting things
One of the main issues that I can’t cope with is when people twist things during a conversation. My mind just goes totally blank and I don’t know what to say so as a result I agree with whatever they suggested and then get angry with myself. One of the interviews that I had last…
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Being challenging
I deleted a post yesterday. It was about some of my not very positive experience regarding the situation I am in. I have difficulties deciding what is appropriate to write about here, considering I do not want to create an impression of toxic positivity, and what is going to be seen as a moan. I…
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The strangest thing ever just happened to me
I was meant to have an interview in a care home not too far from where I live at 2pm today. It was this one that was arranged by a recruitment consultant who really insisted on me going there. I felt a bit uneasy today, thinking, I have no written confirmation for that interview and,…
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Surprise, surprise!
One of the advice for supporting autistic people is making everything predictable. But can it actually work? You may at times think that it does because it helped you prevent your autistic husband’s/friend’s/child’s meltdown but how does it make you feel? Are you not stressed by constantly trying to control everything? Do you not feel…
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Unfamiliar faces
One of the thing that I forgot to mention so far was a little situation form the job interview I had two days ago. This one, where I was offered a job informally and later decided, after making sophisticated mental effort, that it would be better for everyone involved if I just never contact them…
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My psychiatric nurse
So, first of all I wanted to say my psychiatric nurse is absolutely lovely person and a brilliant communicator. I can appreciate that especially because, as an autistic person, I have a history of failed attempts at receiving support from various people and organisations. I will not be going into details here but it all…
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Something positive
For a few days now one of the games I downloaded when I was in Poland sends me an unusual notification every evening: ‘Love is everywhere. Just look for it.’ There is a heart symbol at the end. When I first saw it I thought it’s really strange, why a game would send this type…
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Don’t ask me direct questions please
It is normally said that autistics are bad communicators but when I spoke with my diagnostician, I always knew straight away what she wanted and I was willing to do that. I felt like she was a whisperer, I’m not exaggerating. I will give one more example here: everyone is saying autistic people should be…
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How to stop moaning when you talk to NTs
You know that feeling when you want to have a moan, but just a little one, like 3 minutes only, and then you want to move on? It’s not so easy when you talk to NTs. You need to know a special code. I discovered it in my early 30s by a total accident. It…
Autistic and me 