A little update on Home Group drama

I believe it was a week ago when I requested Mr Henderson, the CEO of Home Group to apologise to me. So far he didn’t. I find it difficult to assess if I really believed he would – as an autistic person I find it difficult to predict other people behaviour, although at times I get it right. I guess, it could actually be easier if I always get it wrong as I’d not attempt to influence people in any way. This is exactly where many of my problems come from: trying to influence people.

What may also sometimes happen is that the person I attempt to influence do what I expected them to do but gets angry with me and I have no idea why. My understanding of social situations is that if someone would get angry because of doing something that I asked them to do, they would simply refuse to do it and I have no idea why people are more complicated than that. Therefore when that happens I end up feeling manipulated, even though I got what I wanted.

So yes, I am not sure I really believed that Mr Henderson would apologise but I was certainly hoping for it. I’m also not sure how I would feel about such forced apologies but I guess that depends on what words he would use.

I guess, if he offered to publish my story on the company website with a sensitive comment, I’d really believe then that he’s not just trying to shut me up and I’d feel my suffering has been acknowledged, so that would certainly make me feel so much better. He would still have to explain why he didn’t apologise since 2017 and that could prove to be difficult but I guess not impossible. As a neurotypical person he should have much better social imagination than me so possibly he would come up with something suitable, he could also ask other people in his team, so pretty much everyone working there, for some ideas. Or, possibly he could even as an autism specialist how to talk to me.

Yesterday, when I got very upset about it, I emailed professor Simon Baron-Cohen and asked him to negotiate between me and Mr Henderson and he bluntly refused. I’m not sure why, this is a total mystery to me. I’m an autistic person going through some unusual life events relating to my condition (autistics are much more likely to be bullied) so it seems to me like not only he should be willing to help but he should also want to find out more about my situation for research purposes. Quite frankly it appears he’s not interested in either.

My request for apology made me realise however, I should also apologise to somebody in relation to Home Group drama, but I won’t reveal here who that person is. I do behave strange at times, as we all know, I’m autistic so that is some kind of explanation but it doesn’t mean I shouldn’t be expected to learn from my mistakes.

8 responses to “A little update on Home Group drama”

  1. Have you talked to any autism advocacy organizations about helping you to seek an apology from Home Group?


    1. Do you think that’s the right thing to do? It may as well be, as if I continue posting like that it will only make me look silly.

      I used to be in touch with an advocate, a lovely lady about different issue, and we briefly talked about Home Group issue. I chose at the time that will be better if she doesn’t approach them. I guess I wasn’t ready at the time. A lot of it was probably due to my simplified understanding that accepting apologies would mean keeping quiet about what happened and I was worried that, even with an advocate, I won’t be able to navigate all the politics.

      But now, when the truth is already on my blog I guess Home Group should get the hint that I’m not going to delete all those posts, so possibly I could get back in touch with that lady.

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      1. It sounds like she’s likely to be more helpful than Simon Baron-Cohen.

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      2. Exactly! And you’re also much more helpful. Simon Baron-Cohen told me to go to a GP ‘who understands autism’. And what can even a best GP do here? GP’s job is to prescribe meds, not to organise apologies for people who have been emotionally hurt.

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      3. Hmm, that’s a strange recommendation. A GP isn’t going to do anything.

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      4. Well, I guess this is an accurate reflection of autism specialists across the globe. Did you hear about Tony Attwood, Australian scientist, he used to be very famous quite a few years ago. He’s also an autism (they still call it Asperger’s in Australia) specialist and has his own clinic. It turned out he didn’t recognise Asperger’s in one of his son’s. The poor chap has been diagnosed in his 20’s after turning to drinking.

        So I wonder how Professor Simon Baron-Cohen came up with the idea that it’s at all possible to find a GP who understands autism if autism specialists cannot get it right.

        Oh well…

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      5. That’s so strange that an Asperger’s specialist wouldn’t recognize it in his own son.

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      6. Exactly!

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