Two days ago, when I visited mum for the first time in her new care home, she told me she wants to live in Poland, unless it’s impossible, then she’ll go back to mine again. It sounded to me like expectation

Mind you, she didn’t say ‘In Smardzewice’, where our family home is, just ‘in Poland’ and what did she mean that it may be impossible? It seemed to me like she was hinting that she wants to stay in this particular care home and she was expecting me to be ok with spending her savings on that (impossible equals we have no more money).

The Friend said that’s not what my mum meant but for me it was like a hint. Possibly over the years she worked out, up to a point, how to communicate with me?

When she lived with me she probably felt like she’s intruding while in the care home she’s with other people who are like her.