(For those of you who don’t already know Home Group is a large housing association with head office in Newcastle, UK, that I used to work for and I was a victim of harassment there. They claimed in an official document for Employment Tribunal that my autism diagnosis was private and they paid for it, while it was on NHS and they were never asked to get involved.)

I contacted an ex colleague from Home Group today. I’m not in touch with anybody from there except of him as I also know him from a different setting. He is a lovely chap and very fair, that’s why I was at some point very scared that he will be avoiding me due to whatever he heard about me, and I’m sure he heard something at the time, what must have been mostly made up.

And the thing is, why would I be scared? And why I kept quiet about it for, well… since 2017? Should we not talk about things like that openly so that they never happened to anybody else? I’m sure Mr Henderson, Home Group CEO, would agree with me on that.

Every time I mention Home Group on my blog I email Mr Henderson and he never replies. So I’m wondering, what is going to happen now? Would Home Group just keep quiet forever, possibly saying, if someone from outside ever asks, that they can’t comment on individual circumstances? But that wasn’t just my circumstance.

I had problem with a female colleague (I call her Devi for the purpose of my story) and, as I started complaining, the things were getting worse and worse. I was asked on two occasions by managers from outside of my team, how I got the autism diagnosis and I said it was on NHS and on both of those occasions those managers pulled faces at me.

Later on I understood why: there were fabricated documents in my file stating that the diagnosis was done through AXA occupational health. But neither of those two managers ever said anything so I had no chance to explain and protect myself. One of them was actually investigating my grievance; her job was to deal with any unresolved issues and still she didn’t do that. That’s neurotypicals for you.

So, if Home Group conduct couldn’t protect me from those type of practice, how can they protect their tenants? What guarantees we have that similar treatment will never happen to them? It may, because that’s how narcissists work. There’s nothing that can stop them.

But does that mean I should now be scared? No, we should talk about those things openly, so that they will never happen again to anybody else.

The Boyfriend is really scared they will take me to court, but what for? They’d only make idiots out of themselves for that.