Tag: sexuality
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‘He was saying I had a lovely eyes and a lovely personality’ and then he never texted her again.
What will you say for another piece of a dating advice from an autistic female? I wonder how well I managed to work how guys really think. Is it possible that I’m better at it than neurotypical women are? What I think sometimes happens with neurotypical people is that they assume that others think the…
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The most bizarre dating story ever
I wonder whether anyone can beat me at that. So, as I said earlier, after I left my first partner in my early 30s, I wanted to meet emotionally unavailable man for a romance. I didn’t know at the time that they don’t really exist; there seems to be loads of them everywhere, men who…
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‘Everyone does that’
I was writing this post when I received the phone call from my mum’s care home. I then left it but then I thought, I may as well finish it and grieve afterwards. This one will be about the fact that creating society where having sex early is considered normal is not really that good.…
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Should women ‘respect themselves’?
I was wondering whether to put this on my blog or not. It’s not a positive experience, but then, my story wouldn’t be complete if I would be constantly saying that men always treated me well. I was on a dating website for a couple of years before I met The Boyfriend and I spoke…
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I feel incredibly sad (also, how to have casual sex if you’re autistic)
I have a feeling that I already made a post with this title but then I can’t come up with anything else – I do feel incredibly sad. The last couple of days I was so focused that it was almost like being in a trance – I didn’t do anything except of thinking what…
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Should we have sex on a third date? (How to use social rules to test people)
Having sex on a third date is considered normal. Of course some people have it earlier that that, even before actually going on a date at all. Going for the third date rule may work for neurotypical women because they have the ability to communicate their intentions in nonverbal way. However, we, autistics, don’t do…
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We’re act on our instinct when we’re in danger (Notifications again)
Ok, so that is pretty horrible: I was thinking what to do about The Boyfriend and the fact that I still want to be with him, but I’m not sure how the things will work out if he doesn’t fully support my blog. I really believe that I have something important to say: guys always…
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Omg, what have I done?
Ok, so I was going to blog about sexuality for a little bit now, but it was difficult to make this shift. I don’t know what people will think about me now, but then, if I see an article about sex, do I think anything bad about the person who wrote it? No, I don’t.…
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Avoid casual sex
Ok, this is another thing that society understands in a completely different way than me. And it’s not about having double standards, that sex when you feel attraction is ok and one when you are just horny and want to get laid is not. Any sex is ok as long as it’s not rape. But…
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Have sex with a man that you fancy (even if he doesn’t want a relationship)
This is another thing that is very important: the society is constanty telling women that if they have sex, they will fall in love. Or at least good sex. This is not my experience at all. Love is complex emotion that takes time to develop and having sex is not sufficient for this to happen.…
Autistic and me 