Tag: communication
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The choice
One of the communication techniques I managed to work out by observing my diagnostician, Oriana Morrison-Clarke, is asking questions in form of, what I call, ‘statement with a void’. This one is very good for helping us make a choice. Let’s say you want to find out how the autistic person in your life would […]
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I hope that helps
It has been brought to my attention that what I’m doing here – I mean, providing phrases neurotypical people use is not going to be effective.Well, obviously, we can’t just learn all of them by heart (although I don’t really have that many for now, do I?) but I’m sure it’s better to do that […]
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I’m sure you’re going to handle everything beautifully
Imagine a situation when you have to leave work early and the only person staying in is much less experienced than you. What are you going to say? ‘I’m sure you’re going to handle everything beautifully’ is an example of a supportive and encouraging statement. If you’re both females, that is! Do not attempt to […]
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Think about what you really want to do
When I first wanted to discuss starting this websire with my boyfriend, also autistic, he said: ‘Think about what you really want to do’ and it sounded really supportive, in a logical way, which is exactly what I appreciate him for. But then, after like two hours of exchanging ideas he said the same thing […]
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That’s not good enough!
Another of my favourite sayings, that I picke up just a few weeks ago. You can use it to create powerful sarcastic message. Imaging that you tell your manager that sometimes, when it’s not busy, your colleagues start friendly banter and you don’t feel included. The response you’re getting is: why don’t you go to […]
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Everyone has a number those days (I hope)
So I emailed a certain service yesterday to make a certain appointment. The person I exchanged emails with asked: Do you have a number that I could call you on? What does that mean, help!? Everyone has a number those days, I hope. So do they need it just in case or are they going […]
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Jigsaw puzzle
The most surprising on this journey for me was when I realised that I see new social situations as jigsaw puzzle where the piece that represents me has been removed. Since realising that I stopped asking myself ‘what do I say’ as it implies that response is necessary and may lead to coming up with […]
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Autistic mice
OK, so I promised earlier, in my About page that I want to focus on communication, and here I write about a status quo. But isn’t it all connected? I can’t do all the communication work completely by myself, other people need to focus on it too, and possibly we, autistics will benefit more from […]
Autistic and me 