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Me
Change is part of life It’s unavoidable It’s technology 3G, 4G, 5G, a new tablet. Change is meditation New ideas New connections on LinkedIn Sourdough bread from a breadmaker Or donuts from airfryer. Change is a flight on holiday New suitcase Buffet breakfasts Coming back by train with a stopover in Prague. Change is flowers…
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That’s not good enough!
Another of my favourite sayings, that I picke up just a few weeks ago. You can use it to create powerful sarcastic message. Imaging that you tell your manager that sometimes, when it’s not busy, your colleagues start friendly banter and you don’t feel included. The response you’re getting is: why don’t you go to…
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Everyone has a number those days (I hope)
So I emailed a certain service yesterday to make a certain appointment. The person I exchanged emails with asked: Do you have a number that I could call you on? What does that mean, help!? Everyone has a number those days, I hope. So do they need it just in case or are they going…
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Consistency is better than intensity
I stole the above quote from a lifestyle blog. I will not be sharing a link as the post contains statements that, if taken directly, can cause an autistic person to misjudge a situation they are in. But I thought, isn’t it just another way of saying we need to play an infinite game? Or,…
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Narcissist at work part 2
One of the first problems I realised having with The Lady was her desire to share everything, she even had a problem with the fact that I used to bring my own lactose free milk. She and the other lady in the office were sharing milk, and I should have joined them. It seemed that…
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Magda’s dating advice 2
I often see a question on online autism groups: How do I meet somebody? Well, I met my partner on Plenty of Fish (does this website still exist?). I was at the time on a dating scene for like 5 years so don’t despair people! We didn’t meet in person for quite a while, but…
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Infinite games – again
If I can give you a bit of advice people, whatever you’re trying to achieve, think about it like an infinite game. One that has no end point, no win and just focus on playing. That’s our equivalent of neurotypical ‘thinking long term.’ I hope that helps!
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Infinite games – The Company example
I used to be obsessed with revealing The Company name. It’s not like something can happen to me, is it? The truth is on my side – I used to tell myself. At the same time I used to be petrified to tell anyone about what happened, even my psychiatric nurse. I thought that The…
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Social explorer
It is said a lot about autistic females that we camuflage and mask. That means, pretty much, we pretend to be normal, even though it takes a lot of effort. But my dad was exactly like that. So it’s not only females who do that. A few months after my diagnosis I realised that I’d…
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Is autism a disability?
Some autism advocates argue that autism is a different way of thinking. I say it is a different way of thinking that makes us disabled. Do you want to argue with me? Let’s take my employment tribunal case as an example. One could say I outsmarted The Company. And that is right in a way.…