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Magda’s dating advice 2
I often see a question on online autism groups: How do I meet somebody? Well, I met my partner on Plenty of Fish (does this website still exist?). I was at the time on a dating scene for like 5 years so don’t despair people! We didn’t meet in person for quite a while, but […]
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Infinite games – again
If I can give you a bit of advice people, whatever you’re trying to achieve, think about it like an infinite game. One that has no end point, no win and just focus on playing. That’s our equivalent of neurotypical ‘thinking long term.’ I hope that helps!
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Infinite games – The Company example
I used to be obsessed with revealing The Company name. It’s not like something can happen to me, is it? The truth is on my side – I used to tell myself. At the same time I used to be petrified to tell anyone about what happened, even my psychiatric nurse. I thought that The […]
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Social explorer
It is said a lot about autistic females that we camuflage and mask. That means, pretty much, we pretend to be normal, even though it takes a lot of effort. But my dad was exactly like that. So it’s not only females who do that. A few months after my diagnosis I realised that I’d […]
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Is autism a disability?
Some autism advocates argue that autism is a different way of thinking. I say it is a different way of thinking that makes us disabled. Do you want to argue with me? Let’s take my employment tribunal case as an example. One could say I outsmarted The Company. And that is right in a way. […]
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Narcissist at work – part 1
I believe The Lady from my story was a narcissist. I also believe that narcissists are responsible for most of the bulling that autistic people experience, if not all of it. Narcissists need to feel they influence people around them and they use their social skills to do that, but because we don’t understand their […]
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How to deal with yourself
People, both autistics and neurotypicals, are asking sometimes how to manage autism. And my response is: you don’t. Autism is who you are, you can’t change it. You can only manage the traits. How? By recognising patterns, creating procedures for desired behaviour and by changing the game you’re playing to infinite one. Let me know […]
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Life in a department store
When I was in my 20s, so didn’t even suspect I may be autistic, I read a couple of books by dr Wayne Dyer, an American self help author. In one of them he described a woman who used to correct clothes on shelves and hangers as she was shopping for outfits. Dr Dyer said […]
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Infinite games part 2
What about them, you may want to ask. What I am just about to say applies to your entire life but I’ll give you a particular example: have you ever been guilty of ‘infodumping’? I mean the situation when you throw everything you know about discussed subject on the person you’re speaking to. Even if […]
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Magda’s dating advice 1
I just watched a YouTube videa by Max Derrat called ‘Autism and loneliness’. Max has a very interesting way of talking about his autistic struggle so I do recommend you watch it too. It is obvious, however that trying to work out the scary, confusing social world around him is putting him through loads of […]
Autistic and me 