Category: communication
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Don’t ask me direct questions please
It is normally said that autistics are bad communicators but when I spoke with my diagnostician, I always knew straight away what she wanted and I was willing to do that. I felt like she was a whisperer, I’m not exaggerating. I find it all very strange, it’s obvious for me that my diagnostician doesn’t…
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How to stop moaning when you talk to NTs
You know that feeling when you want to have a moan, but just a little one, like 3 minutes only, and then you want to move on? It’s not so easy when you talk to NTs. You need to know a special code. I discovered it in my early 30s by a total accident. It…
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I hope that helps
It has been brought to my attention that what I’m doing here – I mean, providing phrases neurotypical people use is not going to be effective.Well, obviously, we can’t just learn all of them by heart (although I don’t really have that many for now, do I?) but I’m sure it’s better to do that…
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I’m sure you’re going to handle everything beautifully
Imagine a situation when you have to leave work early and the only person staying in is much less experienced than you. What are you going to say? ‘I’m sure you’re going to handle everything beautifully’ is an example of a supportive and encouraging statement. If you’re both females, that is! Do not attempt to…
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Think about what you really want to do
When I first wanted to discuss starting this websire with my boyfriend, also autistic, he said: ‘Think about what you really want to do’ and it sounded really supportive, in a logical way, which is exactly what I appreciate him for. But then, after like two hours of exchanging ideas he said the same thing…
Autistic and me 