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Focusing on obstacles

When I’m stressed I focused on obstacles more than on the end result. Even when the issue is small, in my mind it becomes a massive problem.

Just today I had to order pressure sores dressings for mum (meds are not free for seniors in Poland, like they are in the UK) so I found a company online that makes them and ordered a pack. Online shopping is not as easy in Poland as it is in the UK, one can’t usually pay by card or PayPal (although PayU is available but I don’t have an account there) and the most popular payment method is bank transfer.

So I ordered those dressings and after checking confirmation email I realised there’s no delivery address there. So I emailed the company to confirm it, which they did, and then, when it came to payment, I had to type 26 digits account number, order number and the amount into the online banking and I was like: I’m not doing this! Why this is so difficult!

Obviously mum needs those dressings and even though the process was not as easy as I’m used to on eBay or Amazon, it only took me a few minutes so why it was such a problem? Even now, a few minutes later I still feel stressed and ideally I’d contact the company to ask for refund only because they didn’t make the process of ordering and payment easy enough.

Magda Regula

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5 responses to “Focusing on obstacles”

  1. Ashley L. Peterson Avatar
    Ashley L. Peterson

    I wonder if it might help to weigh the amount of work that would be involved in continuing in the same direction vs. changing direction. In this case, it sounds like continuing in the same direction would involve no additional work, while asking for a refund would involve the work of trying to get the refund, plus finding a new place to order from, and then placing a new order.

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    1. Magda Avatar
      Magda

      It was directly from the main supplier so new place would be more expensive plus I could encounter the same problems.
      I feel the same way whenever I have to do something that is not straightforward. Like for example filling in job application form where I’m asked to explain gaps in employment but there’s no field for that. I feel like I don’t want to apply for that job at all because of that one reason.

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      1. Ashley L. Peterson Avatar
        Ashley L. Peterson

        I’ve had to deal with that issue before of gaps in employment. There doesn’t seem to be any explanation that people consider to be acceptable.

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      2. Magda Avatar
        Magda

        Well, let’s hope I’ll be fine. Gaps in employment are just that – gaps. Sometimes we need them.

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      3. Ashley L. Peterson Avatar
        Ashley L. Peterson

        Absolutely.

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