I hope, when I get to mum’s bank after I get power of attorney, it will turn out that all her money got missing. If there’s nothing left, I wouldn’t need to do anything. I’d just organise the rest of her pension, that she has left, to get transferred to the care home, so that she could get a couple of bits, like moisturiser or hand cream, and I could go back to the UK with the awareness that I did my best.
I wouldn’t even be angry with the bank staff who stole the money, they probably really needed it if they decided to take such a desperate step.
I just really can’t do that: using my mum’s money to lock her in a care home, because my brother is drinking? That doesn’t feel right at all.